I’m a victim that wants pity…say what?
Losing a ‘friend’ over mental health.
What a title huh? Well, let me tell you what happened.
The other day, someone I have known since 2006 and I got into an argument because I told her she needed to take her meds and go see a counselor. Her mood has been all over the place and she’s been going from happy to sad to frustrated to clingy to not talking to me for almost a week. In answer to my statement, she tells me “I’m not a victim that wants people to pity me”. I was utterly shocked. I was like “So, you think I’m a victim that wants pity?” Her response “Go ahead and post on FB what a bad person I am for calling things like I see them.” I responded with not so nice words and then blocked her.
I am writing about this because for one, this hurt me a great deal and I am having a hard time dealing with it. For two, I want to know if others have experienced this.
How do you tell someone with mental illnesses that you think they are a victim? Especially one that you have known for 15 years and know what they’ve been through? I have PTSD (from SA, rape, and abuse), anxiety, and major depressive disorder. I have fought to get where I am at right now and it took a LOT of strength for me to go to the VA and then ask for help. Since I have been on my meds (have only had to change them once), I am doing much better and once I started therapy, my nightmares have calmed down.
Like I told her, I am NO victim and want NO pity from anyone. Like everyone else I just want to have family and friends understand who I am and how I can be some days. Thank goodness I do. Unfortunately, I am finding out that those that say they are friends/family, are only here when it helps them.
#mentalillness #heartbreak #mentalhealthmatters
